Truth Be Told

Well, I'm attempting to settle back into a "normal" routine. A taxing day at a funeral that by all means was a celebration of a fabulous life.

Hub and I grabbed lunch with fellow workers and talked about memories we probably haven't touched on in years. It was nice reminiscing. Hub and I came home and continued our conversations. While at lunch Ms. Ex texted hub again to tell him how great she thinks he is and how much she values him.

It is an odd thing that brings up the past. I asked hub if he had any regrets with the way our lives had turned out. He quickly answered, "absolutely not babe, you're the best thing that has ever came into my life!" He did have a puzzled look on his face and asked where I was going with the conversation.

Surrounded by emotions I smiled and said nowhere, just curious. He quickly chuckled and asked if the text from Ms. Ex bothered me. I told him that he knew better, but that I found it odd that she wanted to praise his "work" now twice in one week.

In his sweetest tone and on bended knee he was in front of me and reminded as he does all the time of his love and devotion to me. I always recall his words escaping his lips, "I never knew how good love could be until I found you babe. For so many years I settled for the maybe things will get better one day life."

A few years ago when Ms. Ex and I were friends (can I even call it that???) she had asked me a few questions about hub and I's relationship. (specifically how we met, when feelings started, etc) I felt HORRIBLE and completely INVADED that she would want to know intimate details about our relationship so the sympathetic person that I am, I lied to her. Sometimes you have to tell those little "white lies". Was I supposed to crush her even more than I knew she was? Was I supposed to expose details that I knew when hub became dissatisfied with her? Was I supposed to let her know that almost 10 years of her marriage was nothing but a facade? Oh no! I'm not the bearer of bad news. If she couldn't tell 10 years prior to meeting me when things went horribly wrong, not my place, no thank you. I told her that I felt like hub "settled" for me because she wouldn't take him back and he had no one else to turn to. Truth in fact, I pushed hub back to her. He told her he would come back for the kids only and to continue raising them, but not for any love for her. Ms. Ex at that time said if you're not coming back for me then don't come back. Sooooo Hub didn't go back. He chose me! Truth in fact, we chose each other.

Sometimes I wonder if Ms. Ex ponders the thoughts of what life would have been like had she said come back for the kids. My personal opinion is that hub would have choked on his words and not went back anyway.


I guess I'm finding myself thinking of this conversation because I know the scorned wife card that Ms. Ex plays. Her texts have never bothered me in the past, I reckon they won't start now.


I wonder though if she really knows the true reason why I despise her so much?

Truth be told I despise anyone who doesn't put their children first. Let me make that a little clearer. When, clients, type of work, numerous boyfriends, vacations, inappropriate photos publicly displayed, manicures, pedicures, cosmetic surgery, facebook, (I could go on and on) are priorities before your children .... well then I despise you, and I pity you. I pity that you don't see what wonderful children you have and I pity that they aren't important to you.


Not a problem, for they are truly important to me and in every aspect I put them first. Much love to them tonight, tomorrow and always.