January 27, 2011

Hello Hello! Back into the midst of catching us up to speed. 2010 started off wonderful for us. We had full custody of the kids and were getting everyone back on track. Before I go too far into 2010, let me bring up Christmas 2009. Seems that Ms. Ex wasn't feeling very festive and didn't think she could give the kids the Christmas Spirit that they needed so she decided to go 15 hours away to be with boyfriend and celebrate Christmas with him. She would return .... I think it was 3 days after Christmas.. Not exactly sure, but it brings me to the next point.

With us having full custody, Ms. Ex was entitled to 3 weekends of the month (Friday & Saturday night and then return to us on Sunday) First go round into the weekends and Ms. Ex asks if we can keep the kids because she needed some alone time.... Ok.. you were just gone for a week and now you're supposed to have them ..... and you need alone time? I didn't quite grasp the concept, but oh well, I never did then and I won't now.

In the beginning of 2010 after school was out Ms. Ex would come over to my home and hang out with the kids..... EVERY DAY! Come on now! Seriously! She technically wasn't coming over to "hang" with the kids, but rather waste time. She found herself living about 45 minutes from our home and her fitness teaching "jobs" were near our home. Didn't make sense for her to drive all the way home to drive all the way back to our side of town. Other than the fact that this is MY SPACE you are invading! That lasted about a week and hub told her no more hanging out with the kids! I might even add that she wanted to come in the mornings too and hang out till the bus came. Last I checked you couldn't "raise" your kids right now and gave them to us to do it..... why are you hanging out at our place? Ms. Ex quickly realized that only having the kids 6 overnights a month was quickly becoming frustrating. She didn't have adequate housing arrangements for them where she was at and the reality was probably sinking in. Ms. Ex began picking the kids up for dinner one night during the week that was set and established. She'd pick them up and have dinner with them and then bring them home.

In the midst of all of this Ms. Ex is now flying to see boyfriend 15 hours away at minimum once a month. Now we aren't exactly sure ... and rightfully not our business, but Ms. Ex claimed that boyfriend was footing the plane tickets for her. Great!!!! You got yourself a sugar daddy! (Problem.... you claim you can't split the cost of the things the kids need, you have no money to pay the bills you have, you can't afford to get a place of your own) YET... you travel away once a month which means you aren't doing your "fitness instructor" jobs ----thus you aren't getting PAID from anyone! So in fact what little money you do make you're not making. Afterall, in the fitness world you get paid for what you do.. not what you don't do.

I find myself remembering how this particular fitness that she is teaching got started anyway... OH yea!!! ME... Back in my not so smart, own a fitness studio days with her, I paid for her certification! Why???? Because I was just that nice! And here we are 2010 and she's teaching classes on my dime actually, because I paid for the certification... (But yes..yes.. certifications do expire ... and yes, yes .. now she's teaching on EXPIRED certification!) Liability, Liability, Liability.

Off my soap box on that one. We carry on and grades come home from school! For the FIRST time since the divorce of Ms. Ex and hub... my "step" son has ALL passing grades!!! Not just passing, but NOTHING below a C! This is BIG news, GREAT news!

Summer break and Ms. Ex has the kids here and there. Nothing too long term as that would cramp the style of her "instructing." Many of baseball and softball games that Ms. Ex missed for the opportunity of either a date from some new suitor ... or yes.. instructing from those 15 million jobs she holds! I bring up new suitor(s) because that is an entire new topic to discuss.

Since the final of the divorce Ms. Ex has been in "relationships" with 6 men??? (I've lost tracke) I say "relationships" lightly. I am of the belief that you don't bring anyone home to meet your children unless you know that there is potential of a long term relationship. Otherwise, why have your kids meet person after person after person. Now.. I hear ya... well maybe their just friends.... True, possibility.. But when Ms. Ex is confiding in her daughter.. (who by the way isn't even in her teen years) about how much she likes this man and that man. How this man treats me this way and that man takes me to this place .... and well ------------------------------------------------------>

OK.. so back to school now in 2010 ... kids are doing great! Step son is not only improved his grades... He's on the honor roll!!!! Can I get a woot woot!

Events transpire leaving Ms. Ex homeless yet again and she is left to find another place to live. She has taken on a part time position with benefits.. This is a good thing.. BUT bad thing in that while she gets 30-35 hours a week.. the pay is less than adequate and she only gets paid during the school year and when school is in session.. Sooo.. Spring Break, NO PAY, Winter Break, NO PAY .. Holiday, NO PAY, Summer Break, NO Pay --- you following me here?

On a positive the "job" is in the area where we live, so that's great! Now all she has to do is get a place to live down around her job! Yea.. NO... She opted to get a 2 bedroom ---- 40 minutes across town! Again.. her choice. But the agreement was. Get job, move back to the area where the kids are going to school and shared custody could be discussed again!

Who doesn't do that? Ms. Ex is who!

Think I'll stop for now.. as we're getting into the more current events and I'll get that going tomorrow... Will be OK. though because then I'll be more current and instead of dating the posts, maybe I'll come up with some quirky titles?? Suggestions???